Understanding that all feelings are ‘normal’ and healthy, even the more difficult ones like anger and sadness, is important. It is how you show your feelings that counts.
Knowing how to cope with ‘big feelings’ is an important skill. We need to be able to manage our thoughts and feelings when times are hard.
When your child is angry encourage them to tell people ‘I’m angry about that’ but then help them find ‘good ways’ to manage the feeling. Try;
When your child is sad;
When your child is happy or proud enjoy the moment with them. Talk about what has happened. Thinking through things that have gone well can help children see their part in it, and build confidence.
Be a good example! Talk about your own feelings, and manage your reactions in a healthy way. Seek help if you know this is something you find hard. Have a look at the Norfolk Wellbeing Service for more information.
It is great when a child learns to look after their physical and emotional health whilst they are young. Children benefit from having good habits in place – self care becomes a natural part of every day life. This will help your child as they grow and develop. Help your child build routines and habits that include;
Eating well and taking regular exercise
Hobbies and activities
Time with friends and family
Having the chance to challenge themselves and achieve results
Ways to relax their bodies and minds
Coping With Hard Times
It can feel difficult to see your child go through a tough time. It can be an instinct to fix it for them because you don’t like to see them sad or worried. One of the ways that we become resilient adults is by learning that we can cope when things don’t go as we hoped.
If you always protect your child from disappointment and difficulty, they miss out on learning their strengths and ways to overcome hard times. This may make them feel out of control and helpless when they face challenges.
Not fixing a problem does not mean your child needs to cope alone. Work together to make things better.
If your child tells you their problem, help them think it through and plan next steps;
It is by learning from good and bad experiences that you can help your child build the resilience that will help them throughout life.
The Psychology in Schools Team delivered a parent workshop which looked at how you can support your child or young person to build resilience. You can watch the recording of the workshop below.
This activity helps your child to think about positive things that will help and support them when going through periods of change.
Life can be extremely difficult sometimes and it’s perfectly normal to experience anger, grief and pain., but the more resilient you are as a family the easier it will be to keep functioning both physically and mentally during difficult times.
In this video Tanni Grey-Thompson shares some advice from NHS mental health professionals on how to come together as a family when a child has a mental illness.
You can contact the Healthy Child Programme by calling Just One Number on 0300 300 0123 or texting Parentline on 07520 631590. Our opening hours are 8am-6pm Monday-Friday (excluding bank holidays) and 9am-1pm on Saturdays.
If you are 11-19 you can text Chathealth on 07480 635060 for confidential advice from one of our team.
For adults Qwell provides free, safe and anonymous mental wellbeing support for adults in Norfolk and Waveney from a professional team of qualified counsellors.
For 11–25 year olds Kooth is a free, confidential and safe way to receive online counselling, advice and emotional well-being support.
Childline - Children and young people under 19 can call 0800 1111 for free support.
Young Minds Parents Helpline - Call 0808 802 5544 for free Mon-Fri from 9.30am to 4pm.
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