You may go into parenting alone from the start. Many lone parents feel that in some ways it can be easier to raise a child or children solo.
It can also be challenging for the same reasons; it might sometimes feel a big responsibility on your own. It can be tiring and you might miss grown up company.
Involving trusted family and friends in your child’s life can be good for you both. It can mean that you get a break sometimes and there are other people who know your child well to talk through any worries you have.
If you do not have a network of people nearby it can help to connect with other parents in similar situations. You can join Just One Norfolk's online parent forum or Gingerbread has forums and arranges single parent meet ups.
You may meet a new partner and be wondering how and when to introduce them to your child. Meeting someone new can be a very exciting and hopeful time for you. It might be tempting to bring the person into your child’s life in the early days of your relationship.
Patience is important when deciding when to introduce a new partner into your children’s life. You need to be confident that your relationship is likely to be long lasting. It is confusing for children to meet new people that do not stay in their life for long.
Keeping a new relationship between you and a new person, separate from your children, allows you to;
Introducing Children to a New Partner
Your child will need time to adjust to someone new. How long will depend on their personality, age and their previous experiences of being around grown up relationships. Be patient and go at a pace they can cope with.
When the time comes to introduce them to each other it can help if;
Build up contact slowly going at your child’s pace. Make sure you still have lots of time alone with your children. This is important for all of you and lets your child know that they are still your priority.
If your child continues to be unhappy about the relationship - it will be hard for you but it is important for them to share their feelings and be listened to. Let your child know that you love them and your new relationship does not change that. Give it time. If you are both patient, kind and consistent in your approach things will likely improve.
Keeping Safe in New Relationships
You may have had previous experiences of an unhealthy or abusive relationship. You may have some doubts or worries about your new relationship. People may ‘hint’ or tell you worrying things about your new partner’s past. It is important not to ignore this for your own safety, and your child’s safety.
Find out more about the signs of healthy and unhealthy relationships.
If you are worried, you can get more information about your partner’s history from the Police using Clare’s Law.
You can contact the Healthy Child Programme by calling Just One Number on 0300 300 0123 or texting Parentline on 07520 631590. Our opening hours are 8am-6pm Monday-Friday (excluding bank holidays) and 9am-1pm on Saturdays.
If you are 11-19 you can text ChatHealth on 07480 635060 for confidential advice from one of our team.
Qwell provides free, safe and anonymous mental wellbeing support for adults in Norfolk and Waveney from a professional team of qualified counsellors.
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